LOVE or hormonal imbalances !

 hey there ,i did really take a great deal of time to think about what to write here next .A  big lot of time that i wasted trying to find inspiration whereas it was all around ,i just wasn't looking hard enough. However ,better late than never i am just taking the steps towards writing something out of curiosity about how much do i actually understand about love or if i understand it at all .

So ,lets see where we go together from here .

Love as it written makes the world go around or is it gravitational attraction of the sun, so now this Gravitational " Attraction " ? why is this called attraction and not our Highly Hyped word LOVE ?

May be everything it is actually attraction all around and not love at all , may be the intense type of attraction for one person is actually love so it is with our Earth ( a SINGLE PLANET with all the necessary conditions for life to survive)and our Sun . But then what about all the other planets that are revolving around the sun and all those asteroids and what not ,whose movements are governed by the gravitation of the sun.So what can we now say is that ,sun is actually a Alpha male who has his special kind of love or attraction as you call it for our mother earth and he has that kind of impartial and no strings attached kind of love for all the other celestial bodies ( oh do you see here ?we refer them as celestial bodies ,may be the sun sees them as a hot blonde or redhead or a russian with splendid legs who looks amazing when she has her hair hanging down her shoulders and when these celestial bodies stare at the sun with their undress me eyes ).WE ARE QUITE CERTAIN THE SUN DOES GIVES IN SOMETIMES AND MAKES SOME WILD HAPPENINGS LIKE  the asteroid shower or the visit of the Hailey's comet or sending us some devastating sun flares or the aurora's of the poles , even our earth knows these flirty responses of the sun and she just may be lets the sun be him and not try to teach him a lesson or two with her jealous rage .

So ,isn't it had been much better if we had just called our love for others as attraction and not just love ,for attraction is bound to be with many for different reasons while if we label it as love than we are just putting ourselves into the exclusive group where we are bound to act,react or respond as per the one whom we love and not act on our natural instincts.And being in that exclusive group is what our society actually want for that very reason we have invented a concept called marriage and then we have put on numerous reasons which we label as traditions to hold fort that lofty concept so that we are not actually animals who are ruled by their instincts .But are they actually serving their purpose ,why do you think these sexual crimes are happening ( no i am not trying to demean any traditions or cultures ,am just trying to look at it with my way of thinking ) ,why then society discriminates against gays ,lesbians and other kinds of relationships ? It is never like that we have never seen any gays ,lesbians or multiple partner relations before ,we have , even our ancient kings had several wives and harems full of maids ,most of our ancient books do tell us about child from another mother or father .

Please let me be very clear that i am not denouncing marriage which is integral part of our lives . JUST BEING OBJECTIVE  to analyse that may be the love we have for someone sooner or later converts itself into responsibilities .So, now the big question arises of what happens to our natural instincts ? Now ,dont put that innocent face of not being aware of what i mean here .I mean in simple biological terms that we human beings before we became social ,before we started settling in colonies and towns , a lot before we invented marriage , we were crazy ,highly endowed with physical abilities to walk almost 50 kms everyday ,strengths to hunt ferocious lions ,huge prehistoric bulls and mammoth, whose highly potent sperms just gave rise to the modern civilizations where millions may be billions carry the same DNA information in their system , and i am quite certain that these testosterone surplus ancestors of ours didn't have a single data transfer channel they must have maintained multiple channels so that we now became a complex mixture of different races and reach an astounding number of 7 and marching towards 8 billion progenies .For scientifically speaking human males are filled with huge amount of highly powerful hormone called testosterone and the ability and desire to mate with numerous females so as to maintain continuity of the race with its fittest individuals and hence to attract huge number of followings they didn't need any instagram account ,they just needed to show up then and there and mate wiith the female and the female being enamoured by the masculine strength ,huge legs ( built by running miles )and huge chest and arm muscles( built by hunting huge animals and gathering food for various places ) gave in to the temptation and mated with him .

And wait here ,it was not a cuckold session .

For women are biologically similar about finding the most potent male to mate with for similar obvious reasons of continuity of race ,so they mate with the next more potent individual so as to bring forth the fittest individual which had the most chances of survival.

So do we now think that they cheated on there partners or did jealously ruled and one was killed by the another and women were murdered by their jealous paramours . May be those things did happen we cannot say for certain ,we were not even born then but one thing is for sure these instinctual living was a huge success ,look around and see how so many people we have just become .

Going back to the institution of solitary love and marriage ,if we find our mate to whom we are attracted or to whom we are married, flirting or even having a general conversation with a rather an attractive individual we get jealous ,if we do get jealous than jealously must have been in the past as well to be in our psyche or is it something we have learnt on our way to being civilized ?

Whatever may be the case this feeling of jealousy ,this feeling of being inferior to another ,these constant need to compare ourselves with others, constant want to seek validation is actually ruining us mentally. Humans are fundamentally the most intelligent beings on the Earth right now ,one who is gifted with immense talents and potentialities ,but do we believe it to be true ? we don't . 

Seeking validation ,our constant nature of comparing of competing has made us seek domains which might not be just suited to our very nature and make adjustments there ,even though we make a dent we never become happy or satisfied we seek new ways to compare ,new ways to validate our superiority .We just forget that every one of us are unique ,with not exactly the same DNA information in our system as another ,,even our finger prints dont match, forget about how differently we feel about the same experiences that can happen to different persons .We forget that to compare ourselves with others is saying that the other person was born to the same mother at the very precise same time ,lived a similar life and had the very same experiences till now ,but that has a 0: infinite impossibility.

Then did our ancestors lived a stress free life ?.yes they did. Well ,we know it from the fact that there are many recorded informations in our ancient books where many instances of people living for long periods of time are mentioned ,and we are not certain if that stress free life was due to the ability to get sex whenever they wanted or the availability of huge animals with plenty of protein supply or  was it due to less industrialization or was it because we did not have any social media and made genuine connections with nature.

Whatever it may be ,insecurity has been on the rise ,it may be due to insta ,facebook or tinder  or whatever we dont know but this insecurity has made the world far more complex than it was ,lot of bitterness is being caused because of people comparing themselves with others ,our way of analysing and judging our lives relatively with our friends life has resulted in broken families ,broken friendships and broken relationships .And i even dont know what will all this lead to ,may be to total annihilation of the human race or may be the total annihilation of the human ego ,whatever it may !